Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Bad Idea

If you've never seen the SNL commercial parody of "Bad Idea Jeans," it's okay. I'll give you the gist of it. A group of guys are sitting around getting ready to play basketball while wearing jeans and each is thinking of doing something that is a "bad idea". It ends with them playing against a bunch of enourmous african american guys for money (another "bad idea" when you're on a team with a bunch of older white guys).


We've all had bad ideas. Most of us have jumped all the way in with one of our bad ideas.


Some of us are still experiencing the repercussions of our bad ideas. But I don't want to get discouraged by my own bad ideas. Yes, it would have been great not to have dropped my life savings on some swampland in Florida. Yes, it would have been great if I hadn't tried to dunk last week and fallen flat on my back. Yes, it would be awesome to get a "do-over" on that last job interview.


Some mistakes can hit more personally. A bad relationship we were banking on lasting forever, hurting some one we really care about, and (the ultimate) sin. I know that that has become a "four-letter word" today (yes I can count), but we've all done it. We've all not lived up to the standards God demands, heck, we've all not lived up to the standards we would want ourselves to live up to.


Television usually has some good shows on. But for every good show, there are hundreds of bad ones. Which means they rarely live up to their own standards let alone their viewers'. Of course you will always have that "great" show that no one watches (WHY DID WE LET ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT DIE!!!! <---- greatest show ever). We will always have those situations that we have to do the right thing instead of the popular thing. But usually we pick the wrong side.


The beauty of it all is that we can learn from our mistakes. There is always a lesson. Whether it's as simple as "Hey! No more shows like 'Homeboys in Outer Space'!" Or if it's a bit more subtle in how we deal with others.


It's tough to say. But God can turn the bad stuff to good. I don't want to use this as an excuse to do bad stuff or to allow bad stuff to enter my life, but I also have to be able to move forward from the bad stuff and closer to God.


Lots of mistakes in this life. We need to do everything we can to avoid them. I heavily rely on the counsel of others, especially those who have gone before me. They've made the mistakes, or they've seen the mistakes made before and have a unique insight into how to avoid them.


Mistakes aren't the end of the world (just like they're not the end of television). They can be a HUGE roadblock on our journey, but there is always a way to overcome them, to learn from them, and to be closer to God after them. I do believe that wherever God wants to take us, we can get there without making any of these mistakes. In fact, that's the way He wants us to get there. But we are human and are going to screw up. We need to just remember that He has bright skies ahead.


"My Mother the Car" starred Jerry Van Dyke. He turned down the role of Gilligan on "Gilligan's Island" because he thought that show wouldn't last and instead, starred in (what's widely regarded as) the worst show of all time. But he eventually bounced back. Years later, he landed a role on "Coach", a very successful series. His character (the loveable Luther) was accepted into the hearts of the millions of people who loved the show. It just goes to show you that the worst thing in the world cannot keep us from the best thing in creation.

Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Family


Christmas was good. I hadn't seen my family since the beginning of May when Kristy and I moved down here. It's weird when the people who have shaped you more than anyone else (and you've spent more time with than anyone else) start to become strangers. Distance can do that. I know it's different for everyone. Some people were always "strangers" to the rest of their families. Some, no matter what the distance, can keep the relationship going (although there will always be somewhat of a drop-off).

There just seemed to be this uncomfortable air (an "elephant in the room" so to speak) while I was with my family this year. It's as though there had been this separation and I had become so different that they didn't know how to talk to me. I do believe it was me who created this atmoshpere. I didn't mean to, it just happened.

The infrequency of phone calls, the lack of communication, no one asking deep personal questions with the only agenda being to know more about the other person have all contributed to this. And I am to blame. I know that everyone bears responsiblity, but if I want a relationship with some one, I should pursue them. God does it with me and there comes a point where I need to do it with God.... and others. Especially the people with whom I have shared more life experiences with than anyone. They are the easiest to hurt (because they have to forgive you), the easiest to ignore (they have to speak to you eventually), and the easiest to grow apart from without ever realizing it.

I should be a better son/brother in the future.